Sex & Intimacy Session

Deepen your capacity for connection.

Expand your repertoire for pleasure, intimacy and erotic aliveness.

I work with individuals and couples to help them become more aware of what’s happening in their bodies during intimacy and sex so they can create more connection, more choice and variety, more arousal and pleasure - more erotic play.

There are many pathways to enjoying deeply satisfying sex and intimacy. Taking responsibility for your own pleasure - understanding your own sexuality and erotic turn-ons – is essential to creating erotic connections with others.

As a sex & intimacy coach, I provide education, information, possibilities, skills, and practices to help you explore and identify what’s not working in your sex life and how to create what you do want. I use an integrated cognitive, narrative, and somatic* framework that supports a holistic body-mind approach. The only pre-requisite is a willingness to be present and curious.

Each session is a welcoming, confidential, non-judgmental, consent-driven collaboration. We work together to support where you are, and create accessible ways to create momentum to where you want to be.

*Somatic means ‘of the body.’ Working somatically is a process that uses awareness, breath, touch, and movement to explore internal and external sensations, perceptions, and experiences as a way to access valuable information in the body.

‘Rapture is needed now –
rapture, reverence and grace.’

— Ann Mortifee

Embedded in my approach are the principles of masculine and feminine polarity as a powerful way to amplify the play of erotic aliveness in your intimate and sex life.

While eroticism is highly personal, describing energy as masculine or feminine is a useful way to understand the polarities of energy inside us so that we can access the full range of our erotic repertoire. 

This is not about gender or sexual orientation. 

Feminine energy isn’t restricted to women. 
Masculine energy isn’t restricted to men. 
Every person contains both and needs both. 

When it comes to sex and intimacy we tend to express one end of the pole more than the other i.e. we naturally embody a more masculine or feminine expression. Becoming skillful in erotic fluency includes knowing which pole is your natural default so that you can go deeper into your embodiment of the masculine or feminine. At the same time, being willing to cultivate difference for the sake of the erotic play is essential. If both partners are in their masculine or feminine energy, it’s impossible to create an arc of erotic tension. 

It’s the tension between the poles that creates more intrigue, more heat, more heart.

The Tantric Path: The Play of the Masculine and Feminine

I felt I was in an unsolvable and intricate situation in terms of relationships and had the chance to work with Kirstie.

I had sought guidance beforehand, and was already on the right path but Kirstie, with her deep understanding, empathy, sensitivity, knowledge and her unique personal touch of vibrancy and radiant energy helped and inspired me hugely to feel better; to connect with my heart, to be hopeful and compassionate with myself, and she greatly empowered me to legitimately take decisions from my own clear heart space and to take responsibility for shifting my old beliefs and personal life. Our session gave me a beautiful gift, a momentum of love and courage to embrace my femininity and trust it fully.

— SC 

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I initially came to Kirstie for Ayurvedic recommendations for treating seasonal allergies, but quickly learned so much more than that.

Kirstie gave me a very helpful range of practical lifestyle recommendations for overall well-being which continue to enrich my life. Later when I ran into a very challenging relationship situation, Kirstie provided my partner and I with some much-needed ideas and encouragement which gave us both the courage to take the necessary steps to progress in our relationship. In both cases Kirstie’s recommendations felt like exactly what I needed at the time.

— TN