Sex & Intimacy Session
Deepen your capacity for connection.
Expand your repertoire for pleasure and erotic aliveness.
I’ll work with you to help you become more aware of what’s happening in your body during intimacy and sex so you can create more connection, choice, arousal, and pleasure - more erotic play.
There are many pathways for individuals and couples to enjoy deeply satisfying sex and intimacy. As a sex & intimacy coach, I provide education, information, possibilities, skills, and practices to help you explore and identify what’s not working in your sex life and how to create what you do want.
Taking responsibility for your own pleasure - understanding your own sexuality and erotic turn-ons – is essential to creating erotic connections with others.
Part of your personal exploration includes discovering orgasmicity - recognising that your body can access an incredible range of orgasmic experiences beyond traditional peak moments. This expanded understanding opens up a deliciously broad ocean of pleasurable sensation and possibilities.
I use an integrated cognitive, narrative, and somatic* framework that supports a holistic body-mind approach. Each session is a welcoming, confidential, non-judgmental, consent-driven collaboration. We work together to support where you are, and create accessible ways to build momentum to where you want to be. The only pre-requisite is a willingness to be present and curious.
*Somatic means ‘of the body.’ Working somatically is a process that uses awareness, breath, touch, and movement to explore internal and external sensations, perceptions, and experiences as a way to access valuable information in the body.
Common concerns my clients experience include:
Low/no sex and intimate touch in their lives and relationships
Low libido (arousal) and/or changes in libido
Sexual boredom in the bedroom / disconnect
Erection issues including early ejaculation
Vaginismus, dyspareunia
Orgasm difficulties
Changes in arousal and function due to illness and/or medication
Physical changes due to aging
Absence of a satisfying self-pleasure (masturbation) practice
Sexual myths and misconceptions that are a barrier to experiencing pleasure
Communication about sex e.g. difficulty communicating what you do and don’t enjoy
Diminished agency for embodied consent and authenticity
This is for you if:
You want to create more arousal and desire.
You want embodied practices and skills to expand your repertoire for satisfying solo and/or partnered sex.
You want to understand your erotic turn-ons and how to integrate these into your life in a positive way.
You want to expand your understanding and experience of orgasmicity i.e. orgasmic experiences not limited to genital orgasms.
You want to increase your erotic fluency and explore a range of sexual styles.
You want to explore new pathways of pleasure in your body and other bodies.
You understand that life-affirming eroticism should be part of your self-care plan and want personalised support to embody this.
This is not for you if:
You are seeking hands-on tantric body work or any kind of erotic touch from a practitioner; these services are outside my scope of practice.
You are currently navigating a major trauma or crisis, or are experiencing bodily dissociation. I recommend first working with a trauma specialist before beginning sex and intimacy coaching with me. My door is always open once self-regulation is available to you.
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60-minute Sex & Intimacy Coaching Session online via Zoom
A brief intake form for new clients to be completed prior to session
Forward-facing somatic, cognitive, and narrative framework
Education, skills, and personalised practices to create momentum
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60-minute Sex & Intimacy Coaching Session | $225
Bundle of four individual 60-minute Sex & Intimacy Coaching Sessions | $765 (15% discount applied)
Price on appointment for longer-term coaching bundles
Note: pricing is the same for individual sessions and couple sessions
If an initial conversation with me prior to making an appointment feels useful, you’re welcome to book a complimentary Discovery Call. This is a 15-minute phone or Zoom call to clarify expectations and how we might work together.
‘Rapture is needed now –
rapture, reverence and grace.’
— Ann Mortifee
Embedded in my approach are the principles of masculine and feminine polarity as a powerful way to amplify the play of erotic aliveness in your intimate and sex life.
While eroticism is highly personal, describing energy as masculine or feminine is a useful way to understand the polarities of energy inside us so that we can access the full range of our erotic repertoire.
This is not about gender or sexual orientation.
Feminine energy isn’t restricted to women.
Masculine energy isn’t restricted to men.
Every person contains both and needs both.
When it comes to sex and intimacy we naturally tend to express one end of the pole more than the other. That is, we organically embody a more masculine or feminine expression. Becoming skillful in erotic fluency includes knowing which pole is your natural default so that you can go deeper into your embodiment of the masculine or feminine. At the same time, being willing to cultivate difference for the sake of the erotic play is essential. If partners are expressing the same energy - all masculine or all feminine energy - it’s impossible to create an arc of erotic tension.
It’s the tension between the poles that can create more intrigue, more heat, more heart.
The Tantric Path: The Play of the Masculine and Feminine
The Masculine
Learn how to embody integrity so that your partner can trust you as a lover.
Learn how to hold a strong space so that your partner can soften and relax.
Learn how to master the dynamic art of sexual polarity.
Learn how to generously praise your partner’s radiance and celebrate their body, heart and soul.
Learn how to transform your partner’s unwillingness into a divine and full surrender.
Learn how to offer your partner a full spectrum of sexual flavours – light, dark, and everything in-between.
The Feminine
Learn how to delight your partner by revealing how pleasure moves through your body.
Learn how to praise your partner’s presence, power and purpose.
Learn how to relax and flow fluidly between the opposing energies dancing between you.
Learn how to express your own deep yearning for rapture and ravishment.
Learn how to offer your heart in any moment – to love what is – even when you may not feel loving.
Learn how to become more sensitive to what your body enjoys and how to ask lovingly for what you want.
I felt I was in an unsolvable and intricate situation in terms of relationships and had the chance to work with Kirstie.
I had sought guidance beforehand, and was already on the right path but Kirstie, with her deep understanding, empathy, sensitivity, knowledge and her unique personal touch of vibrancy and radiant energy helped and inspired me hugely to feel better; to connect with my heart, to be hopeful and compassionate with myself, and she greatly empowered me to legitimately take decisions from my own clear heart space and to take responsibility for shifting my old beliefs and personal life. Our session gave me a beautiful gift, a momentum of love and courage to embrace my femininity and trust it fully.
— SC
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I initially came to Kirstie for Ayurvedic recommendations for treating seasonal allergies, but quickly learned so much more than that.
Kirstie gave me a very helpful range of practical lifestyle recommendations for overall well-being which continue to enrich my life. Later when I ran into a very challenging relationship situation, Kirstie provided my partner and I with some much-needed ideas and encouragement which gave us both the courage to take the necessary steps to progress in our relationship. In both cases Kirstie’s recommendations felt like exactly what I needed at the time.
— TN